The other day I was trying to catch up with one of my relatives who had come down from the U.S., after a time the conversation turned to some of our cousins who had recently got married. ‘HAVE THEY HAD AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE OR A LOVE MARRIAGE’, I asked and almost bit my lip when he guffawed saying, ‘only in India you still believe in arranged marriages unlike in rest of the world’. Well, I reminded him his marriage too has been an arranged one and he had no complaints.
I wonder why people in the west mock at arranged marriages saying we are very much behind times. I feel they are ignorant about the changes that are taking place because now a days the prospective bride and groom do meet a couple of times to get acquainted with each other before their final consent and once it is given, an engagement takes places which provides an opportunity for the ‘couple’ to get to know each other better before tying the knot. Sometimes the time gap varies depending on the date of the muhurtam.
Whatever kind of marriage one goes through, it is adjustment that matters and one has to work hard to make their marriage a success and couples in India have an added advantage of family support which is absent in the west where divorces are more common, I said while parting but he didn’t appear to be convinced..