Wish you a very happy Mother’s Day, greeted my daughter extending the huge packet with a smile and giving me a hug. I was sure she would have spent quite a fortune on it as was characteristic of the girl.
Though I appreciated her gesture I wasn’t very sure how her M-in law would react when she would come to know that her newly married daughter-in-law had showered such an expensive gift on her mother.
Not able to contain myself, I told Smitha what was going on in my mind.
The girl did not appear too pleased. On the other hand, she had suddenly become defensive saying, what has my giving a gift to you have to do with her?
Seeing the girl upset, I said, Smitha, you should understand that since you are married you are expected to behave with greater responsibility, and should not continue to be a spendthrift.
But, mummy, you can’t say what I spend to buy a gift to give my mother on Mother’s Day is being a spendthrift, can you?
But Smitha, I don’t remember ever giving a gift to my mother, because we were not aware of a Mother’s Day in the first place; if at all we gave any gifts it was on very rare occasions like their 60th. and 80th. birthdays, I said. Also my mother who was your grandmother would feel too embarrassed to accept gifts from a daughter.
Come on, mummy, you people are so very old fashioned, you forget that times have changed and we should keep pace with the changing times. Like so many occasions celebrated in the west, for instance Valentine’s Day, Father’s Day, which practice we seem to faithfully follow, why not we celebrate Mother’s Day as well? she argued.
As I thought it was difficult to convince the girl that we don’t have to blindly follow Western practices, I had to concede that she was right.
Ok. Smitha, don’t you think you should give a gift to Prakash’s mother too? I suggested.
I could see that Smitha was taken aback at my suggestion.
But, mummy, she is my mother-in-law; how can I give her a gift when she is not my mother! she parried.
So what if she is not your mother, you seem to forget that she is a mother all the same, to the man you married, therefore, she too is entitled to a gift from her son on the occasion of Mother’s Day, I reasoned.
Smitha appeared confused at my words and her expression showed she did not like what I said.
N Meera Raghavendra Rao