Four People 22/06/2010

I wonder why the number four seems to be so important, I almost spoke the words aloud.
My husband, who was watching the Hindi TV serial “Uttaran” intently chuckled with dislike which was a hint to me to shut up and not distract him.
But as I was bent on sharing the nuggets from the book ‘How You Can Make All Pepole Like You All the Time’ I began reading them loudly.
The tips given ran as follows:

You can divide people into four broad categories:
The Self-centered, The Grumblers; the Fault Finders and the Cynics.
Don’t keep away from them because they are like the four directions – East, West, North and South – which are important in their own way. Take care not to be influenced by them.
Do whatever you like if you have the courage of conviction. Don’t worry about what “four people” will say.
Have at least four good friends whom you can trust and rely upon and use them as your sounding board.
Try to think beyond the four walls of your home.
Try to practice four values in life, i.e. truth, honesty, sincerity and uprightness. They are like the four legs of a chair. All the four are equally important if you have to sit on it without falling down.
Who is this impractical person who wrote the book? I heard my husband asking me all of a sudden.
It’s a woman, I said happy that he was listening albeit reluctantly.
I thought as much. Looks like she is aspiring to be some kind of a female Gandhi and out of tune with the changing times. Leave alone making all people to like you all the time, if she can make four people read her book and practise what she says, it would be a great achievement for her, he remarked without taking his eyes off the TV.

N Meera Raghavendra Rao

5 thoughts on “Four People 22/06/2010

  1. Prof.V.N.K.Kumar

    Some authors, in a moment of epiphany, get an idea. Then they scribble it down on a note pad and treating that core idea as the trunk of a tree, develop its branches, and go on seeing where all they can apply that idea. Viz., 4 was the core idea. So let’s see, 4 legs in a chair and for stability all 4 are equally important. Is that so ? Haven’t you heard, my dear author, of a tripod, a stool with 3 legs which is also stable ? Truthfulness, honesty, sincerity and uprightness are the 4 values ? — all of them have a lot of overlap ; they are not discrete factors. Then again why have 4 friends ? Even one will do, a spouse or a sibling or an outsider who vibrates on the same wavelength. The division of humanity into 4 categories is ridiculous. There are 16 personality types a-la MBTI. All the four aspects of the character cited can be in one person……………… Phew !

    Dale Carnegie writes more cogently, on such matters. His ‘How to win friends and influence people’ (1937) is a classic.

    But reading such books with ‘4’ as the core idea are useful in one way. You now know how a book should not be written. That is learning enough, isn’t it !

      1. Prof.V.N.K.Kumar

        From my knowledge of numerology I can say the following :
        You most likely have some of the following strengths and talents at your disposal if the number 4 appears in your numerology chart: You are practical, detail-oriented, organized, orderly, systematic, methodical, precise, reliable, punctual, dependable, honest, trustworthy, without artifice.

        You are the rock and cornerstone of an enterprise, you don’t give up easily, you are perseverant and a hard worker.
        Here are some of the career choices that might suit you particularly well if the number 4 is predominant in your chart:
        Banker, accountant, manager, scientist, lawyer.

        Some of the following weaknesses, which are associated with the number 4, could slow down or even prevent your progress. Most probably, only one or a few of them will belong to you: You can be rigid, judgmental, stubborn, too detail-oriented, bossy, overly cautious and too serious. You might lack flexibility and adaptability. It is difficult for you to deal with changes and you are often too conventional in your approach.

        But then I think numerology is a pseudo-science. Being an intellectual vagabond, I study all branches of human knowledge though I might not believe in many of them.

  2. Prof.V.N.K.Kumar

    This is possibly the most basic and simplest book on the subject of sun sign astrology, and certainly the foremost authority on the subject. Goodman does not go into the moon (or lunar) aspects of one’s chart, the houses, trines, or nodes, but does discuss the ruling planets associated with each sun sign. I did find it fun that this famous astrologer does give a great physical description of each of the signs so you can learn how to guess with a fair amount of accuracy the sign of your friends.

    Yet. I found MBTI Personality types and the forecast of one’s behaviour more scientific than this. Incidentally, the late B.V.Raman, equally famous in India, was an uncle of my cousin brother and he failed to convince me that astrology was a science.

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