The concept of ‘equality’ 08/08/2013

Why do I have to perform puja  today? Asked my grand daughter, not very happy of rising early on the occasion.

Don’t forget that young girls have to do  ‘Deepa kamba puja’ on the amavasya before the advent of Sravana masa, I reminded  the school going girl.

But why do I have to do it year after year? She questioned.

Well, it is to pray for getting a  good husband, I said.

Do I  have to continue performing this puja even after getting a good husband? she asked stressing on the adjective.

Yes, for him to be  ‘good’  all your life, I  replied with equal stress.

But grandma, how do you define a good husband? She wanted to know.

Well, someone  who is kind to you and not a male chauvinist, I  replied.

But I could see that it made no sense to her.

O.K. then will boys also have to pray to get a good wife? She asked perhaps  after  pondering over what I said.

I parried as I didn’t know the answer but it set me thinking all day. May be it  would  be  more appropriate to redefine  the occasion as ‘puja for a good spouse,’  which also removed gender bias, I concluded.


n.meera raghavendra rao


3 thoughts on “The concept of ‘equality’ 08/08/2013

  1. V.N.K.Kumar

    In a patriarchal society, man makes all the rules to suit himself or his kind. The laws favour him. If the wife doesn’t satisfy him he can beat her into submission. Most of the policemen ignore the women who wish to complain about domestic violence. Not in big cities but in villages/towns man is privileged & dominant. So he doesn’t need the help of divinity to make the wife obey him whereas the woman is relatively helpless and all she can do is pray.

  2. V Raghavan

    Comments of VNK sound like quotes from Germaine Greer, the greatest feminist I have known. For example, GG says: “English culture is basically homosexual in the sense that men only really care only about other men” and “The house wife is an unpaid employee in her husband’s house in return for the security of being a permanent employee.”

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